Caring for someone in your home is not only difficult, it can become unsafe for both you and your parent. It’s not uncommon to ultimately need to explore residential care options, but with so many options it’s hard to know where to begin.
Consider how much your loved one should be included in this process. Some may want to participate, while others, especially those with cognitive impairments, should not be included until a plan is set. If your parent is included in discussion, focus on your safety concerns and the independence coming from having their own apartment. Additionally, set up a visit schedule to address fears of being isolated from the family.
Identify your geographic area. While assisted living can provide support with day to day care, there are still areas of your parent’s life you may need to be involved with. Being able to be close to your loved one can allow you both to be an active part of their care team and visit as regularly as you’d like.
Begin touring your identified facilities. Get a feel for some facilities and find out what options would be the best fit for your parent. Find out if the facility may have a wait-list and what documentation they may require; financial information, legal documentation, and physician assessments.
Work with the chosen facility to facilitate a smooth transition from your home to the community. Talk to the staff at the facility about your parent, share their past, their interests, their hobbies, their dislikes. Ask for assistance in introducing your parent to other residents and encouraging them to attend programs.
Transitions to assisted living, especially from your home, may be difficult for both you and your parent. It’s important to remain confident in your decision and to allow time for a complete adjustment.
